Are you a Teen Daughter?

Mom drive you CRAZY sometimes….

Today is my daughter’s 27th birthday. As I sit and reflect back on the years;  babyhood, childhood, teenagehood (is that a word?) and now her adulthood, I wonder how we both survived and came out as good friends, and loving our relationship. I am dedicating this blog to her today.  Happy Birthday Kristy Nicole you amazing young woman!

The teen years are not easy ones.  So much to figure out, know, learn, digest and spit out if need be.  What do I want to be? Who am I? What’s important to me? Am I normal? Does anyone like me? Do I like me? Crazy making stuff….. and the answers are elusive.

Throw in to that mix….Mom…the person who brought you into this world…the person who nurtured and cared for you…helped form the person you are today and who now won’t stop nagging, questioning, and frustrating you all the while telling you she is only doing it to help you.  Can you relate?

I think we all can.  We were all teenagers once and we all had mothers or someone who parented us. So, today in honor of Kristy, I ask you all to stop and sit for a moment.  If my relationship with my mom is not so great, what is triggering me and what am I contributing to this scenario.

  • If every conversation turns into yelling and screaming, decide, do I like this? If not, practise keeping your voice neutral and not engaging.  An argument takes two people.
  • If your actions are met with eye rolling or other negative body language, notice how that makes you feel and in the right moment let the other person know that. The second part of that is … don’t do it yourself.
  • If you are embarrassed to be seen with your mom in public, stop and think for a moment what that must feel like for her. Turn it around and be the person who feels left out.

Not easy stuff.  It takes lots and lots of practise; and patience.

Today…..a quote from Henry James: “Three things in human life are important: This first is to be kind, the second is to be kind, and the third is ……to be kind.”

No one is perfect; not you, not me, not your mom. So be kind and that kindness will spread to you.